That makes you the side chick. Why you think I'm answering his phone?" Its a common question; What does it mean if my boyfriend calls me his baby mama?. So I dont' know, for my child's sake, I just want us to do better as parents. Some of our partners may process your data as a part of their legitimate business interest without asking for consent. She knows all about me and I know all about her but we never met in person and when I tried to reach out to her myself she told my bf that I messaged her .. she blocked me too. should I stay with or leave him. You hit it on the nail. Ya have kids together. We don't have a bad relationship we are great together makes me thinks something is wrong with me he doesn't want to be with me . Er - Are you sure they're actually broken up? He is comfortable with u. Im in a similar situation but as the baby momma. Image credits Photo by Andrik Langfield on Unsplash. Its essential that the boyfriend, who is in the center of this situation, make it clear to his childs mother what is appropriate, that hes in a committed relationship with you, and that he should only be contacted when it has to do with the child they share. I was awake and i'm pretty sure it was the name of his female coworker. Reply. There is also the respect factor when deals with another man's kids. This happened the last time we split as well ? Its been almost 3yrs and i still havent met my boyfriends BM. When trying to understand why he called you mama it would be helpful to consider the timing and location that he said it in. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a Can my boyfriend still love his baby mama? I cant, so for that being said. Well I'm falling for a man with 2 "babymamas" recently and it sucks. My daughter is almost 2 1/2 and calls her aunt "Uncle Meghan," and everyone thinks it's hilarious. However, I became his friend, he was running game that him and girlfriend at the time was not getting along, and that he was sleeping on their couch. If that is the case then he might not actually have plans for the relationship in the long-term and he might be saying it to keep you happy for now. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without The love of your life is still sleeping with his Baby Mama. not every man will always love his baby momma. My ex still co texted me and I told him if he continued I would file a restraining order for harAskMent. The goal is always to de-triangle. I didn't see you mentioning that. But he's careless . By Another less likely option is that it is a new term to him and he didn't quite . But it's weird, when he calls me by my name, I think he's mad at me LOL. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future. This is one of the biggest signs he's using you to get over his ex. Why would he buy his ex an apartment? He dropped off pampers later that day and while intoxicated, attacked me because I filed for child support that day and I did not want to keep the baby. It's about the kids. I felt bad because in that moment she realized that I'm not the monster he painted me out to be. A local ATL radio personality, Traci Steele, has a son with Chris Brown's DJ, DJ Babey Drew. The longer ya are broken up. Cut your losses now. If your boyfriend is talking to his baby mama everyday, there is the obvious concern that he's still involved with her in some way. He's bull****ting you. True. Unless baby daddy is a prize husband and father, I'd stop worrying about him and his ex. He doesn't text me constantly anymore like he used to, he has gone a day with out texting me and he just calls me the next day like nothing happened. Phone convos? Is this really true because I just had a back and forth battle with my kids fathers new girlfriend and she knows so much about my business which is the same with all the other ones he's been with beforeshe seems to think she is the best one he's had and said she is someone important its not that I want him back because he's betrayed me the way they went about me finding out which was through my kids but I've known him since we were in high school and he has told her all my business but yet never claimed her to me she told me it was because of how I would react like she is really riding hard for him. I of course love him and I can't help it. But he tells me that shes a crazy b**** and shes mental Is that not considered cheating? I think people often underestimate how big of a deal it really is to have a child with someone especially if you have that child with someone you dont plan on staying in a romantic relationship with. I have to make up in my mind that Im not dealing with his drama. He hasn't been working and has no car and all this stuff and is on my phone plan from living with me, and I let him keep it because it is important that I can communicate for our child. Bf's baby mama wants him back and she's trying all the means to get him back. People are telling me that he will come back, but I do not know if I should be hopeful. It would not matter where I am at in life or who I am with, if she would give things another shot I would drop anything and everyone to do just that. It all depends on the context and how its used. Continue with this affair or just drop get rid of him and say it's over finally over you had enough of this and you want out and you will call the police on him if he doesn't leave you alone. Dear Carolyn: My husband has a child by his ex-girlfriend. Move on.. GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY! How to react to my man going to his baby mamas house all the time? Same. If he resists, then you know he still hasn't moved on. In order to hate a women that much their must be some unresolved issues of a love unmet! It may have been a silly pet name to call you after a couple beers. u know the situation n if u c u can't handle this then move on. By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. For others, they move on quickly. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. We do so good together and everything seems happy and healthy but everytime he comes back he's mad and tryna act like ive done something wrong. No body is perfect so you cannot blame people for that. I know t's an old post but I guess you definitely did not feel secure in your relationship. Last month i had a wake up call and had to just end it after his child's 3rd bday. Unless you a have a child. the cop out story only works on idiots. We literally were the same person!! Speak up, tell him how you feel and if he doesn't take a stand then you know that he really isnt worth it. Strangely enough, I think it's easier for women to get over the father of their kids than for men to get over a babymama. I'm the blueprint. I feel like I am [his second choice] but he tells me that he loves me and that I'm his one and only. In the meantime he was "single" so he acquired a "gf", but now the wife has shown up, he needs to juggle things a bit to keep both women happy. For instance, I came across a woman sharing her concernsaboutthe mother of her boyfriends child calling, texting and even showing up at his home at all times of the night: I am currently in a relationship with a guy who has broken up with his babys mother. But why what did she do so bad for you to feel this way? You don't have to be on welfare to access birth control. but then he made another girl pregnant, and has chosen me over her. It is really not the most common term of endearment, but calling someone "baby mama" or "baby daddy" is a pet name of sorts. But that's after his mom died and even though I even wiped her when she peed herself fed her slept on the floor with him for the whole 30 days in the hospital I caught a attitude cuz he yelled at me and I said some shit to the extent in the argument that I'd go get some bomb ass dick. I had a miscarriage shortly after that. Takiya Savage. If she's here on a fiancee visa, they will have to marry within 90 days or she has to go back home. My kids father and I have the craziest relationship many of whom know are past say he love me still but wont admit it. If my ex was serious about her even if he cheated on me with her, for our son I would be fine with meeting her. Sounds like his wife is now in town. But now my daughter with him is soon to be seven years old. Boyfriend said another woman's name. Poor women having baby after baby in fatherless households tends to perpetuate poverty for the women AND her kids. This dude barely ever get dressed not even for me. Couple months ago i actually asked him if he has any love for his child's mother and he said Yes because they have a child together but he doesn't "like her/in love w her"i ended up hanging up because i couldn't accept it (guess i just easily get jealous - and realized i just can't date a man with kids/bby mother) i was mad right away..I just know I'm not the right match for him because i will never accept the fact that he has a child by another woman and not with meand my feelings about that were even stronger when i was actually in love with him..but now i have absolutely no feelings for him at allso i just ended it. When you're dating a guy and he's not using your real name and calling you baby, instead, it means he loves you. Because he's not the one who did the dumping, it's safe to assume that if it was up to him, they'd still be together. When he is home he barley spends time with my son. Bro, I understand what you mean. Oh and women, feel free also to give your advice/opinion. he knew this and thought that if he got me pregnant i would somehow magically want to be with him when in fact it made matters worse. I don't what his problem is. My spirit was completely crushed by the time I called it quits. Each of the different reasons why a guy might call a woman mama will likely come with a number of clues in his body language. You need to stop listening to baby momma. Hey , I'm female currently dealing with a sitution with a guy I knew for about three years. Im not sure what youre talking about and Im pretty sure you dont either. The day after that, he had her bringing him to my subdivision. No, I think some men, can NOT stop stringing alone there baby momma. Like a term of endearment. Sometime in his life he thought of ya as forever. I don't even know what to do about it anymore. He made it bed and now has his ex wife living with him and I am sure they're sleeping in the same bed. I have been playing both roles as mother and father for the past 16 years taking the responsibility financially, physically, and emotionally. In some cultures, its normal for a guy to call his girlfriend his baby mama as a way of saying hes committed to her and sees her as wife and/or mother material. This woman also has the personality and appearance of a terminally I'll cow, she has another fatherless child from a later disastrous relationship, she's permanently unemployed & her house looks like a scene from hoarders, I told him I don't feel comfortable with it and it's completely unnecessary & swore it wouldn't happen again, then recently I discovered that after he had dropped him to school he went to her house and stayed there for 2 hours, he even called me after he left and to say see, I dropped him off at school and went straight to the gym, what the hell does this all mean? I tell them how i am still in love with my bm and if she ever decides to take me back. Always try to have some patience and compassion as it's not an easy situation for the man to be in. You acting proud. and all I see, is just a lack of self esteem. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have started doing other things that a boyfriend would do at around the same time that he started to call you mama. Anyway fwd now, I told him is okay if you are going to want things this way is okay no issues with me. The less love he has. I would have to say that his baby mama and kid(s) is a package deal to a certain extent because you would have to put up with her for as long as you are with him. He even had me in his phone as "babymomma". Two months later, he left and tried to get back with me because we were moving away. This could indicate an expired SSL certificate or a certificate that does not include the requested domain name. Why do you feel the need to prove your worth? To be stranded during your first pregnancy, financially reliant on this asshole, emotional, hormonal and to be left for dead could maybe make a person slightly insane. About a week after he was texting me that he needs me, he loves me and wed be in each others arms soon. More often than.not, people who share a child but aren't together anymore, they hate each other, or one hates the other more. 3. My gut says he is full of it, but his story is possible. "Yes, I'm the one. These baby mothers have children and teach those children how to be a worthless waste of skin too! But he makes it like it's nothing. Just like he posted a status saying I'm going to sleep and she'll comment yea you better go to bed. They were both grown already but it still caused issues. But it was five years of hell. I have not a drop of ANY type of feelings for him! I haven't met my ex's significant other and it's been almost if not 5 years. "Dating a man with kids and feeling left out". Ok he might be saving you from years of harAskMent from a person who has nothing to lose. I jst never had a woman that I bonded with like that!! I mean it's obvious to me, he's using you both. To try to sum up what could be a culmination of mixed emotions may be impossible but you have to build that bridge to get across. Been with my guy for two years and still never met his BM. And like George said she took away the ability to have my child near me for greed and selfishness. I think hes just doing all that that way I dont create drama for her to know how things happen! After that i change dramatically and fell even more in love with her but she left me for another guy and lied about it. women are spiteful ****. Please Help. All comes down to the individual. But it us only a territorial response on his part. Body language plays a key role in our daily lives. Think about that before you waste your time wondering if he cares for you and what is going on. There seems to be this attitude of "men have needswhat do you expectfor him to be a monk for a year." He thinks he's always right. U see i have a thing. He choked me punched me in the stomach when I was 6 months pregnant. I avoided him at all cause I was not ready to see him. I think it's really bad when mom and dad don't get along it hurts your baby. In No Contact phase with married man, but what now? If you see him often and youre trying to understand the way that he feels about you then it would be helpful to compare the way that he interacts with you with the way that he interacts with others. Have you bought cars or apartments for any of your exes? So hard to want to date. What do you do when your boyfriend dont defend you to his baby mama. He's cheater on both you and the baby mama! I still wanna be with her. It shouldn't get to me the way it did but I always think there could possibly be something going on between them still. She put me in a really dark place.then one day she left at 4 am while i was working.and continued acting single chasing anything involving parties.So with that said how can i love someone so abusive. Please contact your hosting provider to ensure that an up-to-date and valid SSL certificate issued by a Certificate Authority is configured for this domain name on the origin server. How am I suppose to feel about that? jst wish there was somebody that could actually love me for me! He called too and they were clearly fighting in the background. Females would be like, "You the one?" He's with her and he's with you. You're already hurting and it's only going to get worse. 13years in and I never betrayed his trust! He has no respect for either of you. He never wants to communicate. He'd talk bad about me; get into it with them; call me with them in the background telling them "Bitch you ain't shit. Are you living with him nope. Good luck to you. I do not like for my ex to call me that and I have asked him not to. She told me that when she confronted her boyfriend about the excontacting him after hours, he pretty much responded with, Shes my childs mother. Or just something someone might say to any girl Cus of the mommy jokes going around. And there are some moments they want share with each other: the first step, first word, an award or an upcoming event. Stop blaming the man for you being too stupid to protect yourself. Black women For example, you may say "hey, pick that up," and they'll respond "ok, mom." So, yes, it's like you're nagging them like a mother. Well when your boyfriend calls you "baby girl" it is just basically a pet name. But anywho this guy was actually being an awesome gentle, but just wasn't for me. We only contact through a talking portal online, where everything is recorded for the judge. No matter what, the communication must stay open. Why waste your time with someone that wouldn't be proud to be with you and let the world know it? Because I don't entertain drama. Should I keep believing him when he says it won't happen again or should I just get out of there? Always pointing his feet at you when you're near. She said, "He'll marry him a quiet girl who doesn't give him problems." But granted this me and him worked together. Fact that he doesn't want you to text, call or see him often is more proof that he's still with her. But yet I will never be good enough!!! But, do men, (and women) ever "get over" the relationship? But for some reason after everything we've been through I still love her! Emotionally abusive, even how she fell pregant, she convinced me through duress to stop using protection, I tried to say I don't think it was a good idea because of her recent behaviour and I didn't want to bring a child into it she yelled "if you don't want to have a baby with me now I never want to have a baby with you!" I have talked to other girls trying to find something new in hopes to get over her. How could anyone with respect for themselves or their body have a child with a man that is not married to them or that they were not in a very long relationship with? Should they even talk after a certain time of night? He introduced her as his fiancee. Calling a girlfriend "mom" may signify one of three things: an affection, as a praise that you make him feel good; an insult, he is telling you that you are treating him like a mother hen; or a habit, he grew up around others who did it, so he believes it's a good thing. No. Xper 5 Age: 27. Plus I learnt from him and his family that his ex treated him like sh*t. Well, I have a unique situation. If its not about the kid (or kids), do they really need to talk like that? I don't know how my baby daddy feels about me. His mom and I were cool until he told me she was talking bad about me and when I asked her she said he told her i didn't want to talk to her and eventually the drama he created was too much and at the end of the day she is his mom and will side with him. Hes showing that hes serious about you and sees you as being in his future. By entering this site you declare Bounce out baby. July 2, 2019 at 9:56 pm Now recently we were at the mall the kids him and I and someone who knows his wife saw us and told her. I would have been better for my son. He ate up all the soap. muffin. Once a man has territory with a vagina he will always come back to his property. I'm not attracted to him in anyway, anymore. So here's my situation and question I need a mans perspective. Anyway I was ready to walk I don't want that in my life or to be a second to no one. cuz u know u have to deal with the drama that his baby mama will cuz. I wasn't a great boyfriend for 6 yrs and then we had a child. Usually it is a term of endearment for guys that go out a lot and see beautiful women, I imagine a Latino man says it maybe but probably not a white guy. I'll just find somebody else to have my son." Of course, its not the only way to show that hes committed to you, but its a good start! 6 years ago. Isn't it kind of selfish to date someone when you feel this way? The reality is you can do better. Unless there was not a relationship prior and the woman got pregnant by accident. They sent her a pic and all of all of us at the mall he couldnt deny it I mean we werent doing anything we were shopping for the kids and all hell broke loose. 185.151.48.205 I found out they were actually living together and when I met her she acts like they're still together. Well yeah. He needs to let you go so he can be with his family even if you think it's his ex and she lives with him as family not as a room mate. I would honestly endure any pain or hardship for that to happen. The consent submitted will only be used for data processing originating from this website. Realistically if i didnt have a daughter with her i wouldnt mind her getting hit by a train. Remember that communication is essential to . And she has additional four other children with three different baby daddy's. I am well educated with four children by my ex husband. Required fields are marked *. Trust me its a hard pill to swallow regardless of which end of it youre on. He says it was a mistake, and he loves both me, but he has to be with her because she is carrying his child. I'd rather chop off my member and toss it in the tall grass to never be seen again than to entertain the thought of getting back with her. He was nasty to me for a while and wasn't in my daughters life besides paying money for four month until recently he started trying to do things as a family so once a week we all go out and do something. It helped me though thNKS, It depends on the people. Once I forgave, the other I could not. The truth is, there is no way to ever truly know the heart of a man. Girls that go with so called divorced guys make me sick their as **** as a brick and its embarrassing! She actively tried to make his life miserable and he just wanted to never see or speak to her again, so no I wouldn't say that all guys will always love their babymamas. Performance & security by Cloudflare. Er no. When he is dating I respect his personal life and I expect him to do the same for me. Having more dilated pupils when he is around you. Happily with someone else. We had such an amazing time , I felt loved , I felt good , I felt like this was finally coming together . I did it again. Bottling up your concerns would only make you act irrationally and seem insensitive to your partner. We were together for 3 years on and off and when I fell pregnant he ran for the hills and didn't participate in this AT ALL. My bf is like that in front of me he gets pissed off at her and talked so much shit but baby momma says there hooking up and he wants to be a family again he wants to strangle her but also may love her ? The best way to handle a situation involving a child's life and the mum's is to talk to your man about it. I always give him the benefit of the doubt because i want to trust him but is he really loyal to me? Related Heres what it means when a guy calls you mama. It would also be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him when trying to understand why he called you mama. Reply. Reguardless of how long they have been together. Wife must learn to deal with mother of husband's child. I don't need problems. My kids are my blessing, but I wouldn't have anything the other 2 survived. This is the beginning of her trying to make the relationship hell if he doesn't put a stop to it now it will continue to happen. The Mother and the child are coming from Honduras and so they have to stay with him in his house because they have no where to go. Today I witnessed his behavior towards him picking up his son: all dressed up and using cologne (he has to get him from exs house). Some men would like to strangle their baby momma. Leaving boyfriend of 5 months due to baby mama spending night with him. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now and I like to think we have a strong relationship. i feel after 3 yrs she has to grow up. Man its like your the othe man in my situation except I don't talk bad about my sons mother, I disagree with mossgard. Its hard to sever ties because we have a kid. He's complaining about you to her, and she can't respect you because she knows your secrets and fears. And I just looked him like you can't be serious ? The soundtrack album for the show is a combination of both original songs by the characters in the show, songs by popular R&B music artists such as Alicia Keys, India.Arie, and Solange & Destiny's Child (who perform the theme song), and classic soul music from artists such as Aretha Franklin and the O'Jays.. Track listing "The Proud Family Theme Song" - Solange & Destiny's Child Now when a guy says another girl is "cool by me" he is saying that she is a cool chick, he is cool with that girl, she is alright.Not necessarily that he is attracted to her or likes her. He wants to move on and wants me too but I can't I love him so deeply. It made me enraged and ruined my ****ing life. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? I was on and off with my sons mother for years after he was born. You hope shes treated fairly and the same if not better if he decides to have children with your bm, but you can take control and see your daughter more if your bm isnt a nut case. I don't love my son's mom anymore. You should never settle for being second choice. MadameNoire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives African-American women the latest in fashion trends, There are not enough good men as it is. He admits to getting me pregnant on purpose, thinking we were going to be together. She does call for unneccesary things, and its hard because he cant tell if its a real emergency about the child, or not. But if he's in love why did he cheat or why is she so understanding to what he wants and waiting on him like this I did cuz I was a kid then I think were 25 n hell he 28 this year n shes 30 so I dont get this love triangle but I'm out of it. I never get into it or say how I feel because I honestly don't think it's my business or concern .. it's between the two of them. she would have had to show respect for her man just like she should now for you. Maybe this whole love thing isn't for me! You ever heard the saying" I know what I bring to the table, therefore I don't mind eating alone". Yes, parents need to discuss things: medical decisions, child care arrangements, grades and behavior. Again, it would be helpful to consider if he was showing numerous signs of attraction. Does any of this make sense if you were truly his girlfriend and she were an ex? We were together 8 years and our daughter is six. If I were you, I'd just block him and get on with your life, although I can fully understand your desire to know the truth. It's important for kids! We were engaged and everything, so surely I don't deserve that title. I feel bad for you..my boyfriend was doing this..he would go shopping with them his ex and 7 yr old..go to all the school functions and never invite me..we were together 4 years and im sure he did it more than i knew..on the 5th year he was with her more ..after 7mos of the constant lies and telling me i was crazy for thinking he was messing around..the ex calls me..she tells me they have been out together and "tried having sex" but never did..so he wanted to be w me in the end.n i felt like ha **** he chose me!